Well before the pandemic and the rise of social distancing, young men in America were already having less sex. A 2020 study published in JAMA Network Open, which surveyed roughly 10,000 men and women between the ages of 18 and 44, found that 31% of men aged 18-24 and 14% of men aged 25-34 hadn’t had sex in the past year, among other downward trends. Given how we’ve been social distancing and unable to see and meet new people, these numbers are likely to continue dropping in 2020. Even once COVID-19 eventually subsides, the stress of this year might continue wreaking havoc on people’s sex drives.
But sex is vital for our mental and physical health. Sex can improve our mood, make us less stressed, and facilitate better sleep. That’s why—if you can—you should keep having it! One way to get you more excited about having sex is to throw some variety into your sex life by trying out various sex positions.
New sex positions are something you and your partner could go ahead and try out, well, right now if you both wanted to. But before we delve into less typical sex positions (and variations on some of the old classics like missionary, cowgirl, spooning, and doggy style), we have to ask you one question: What are you hoping to achieve by changing up sex positions? This will guide how you approach this list of 50 sex positions, explains Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT, sex therapist, and author of She Comes First.
If your partner has a vulva and you’re looking for positions to help them orgasm, then you want to look for sex positions where you can manually stimulate your partner’s clitoris while penetrating them. “Most women are not going to be able to get highly aroused or have an orgasm unless there’s some kind of clitoral stimulation happening,” Kerner says.
Perhaps you’re looking for more psychological arousal. Then maybe you want to try out a position that feels impulsive. If so, look for positions where you can push your partner up against the wall or have sex on a hard surface.
Or perhaps you want to explore elements of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism) with new sex positions. “Some of these positions are great for power play, where you can feel dominant or submissive,” says Kerner.
Or maybe you want to try something new for novelty’s sake. Great, just note that not all of these positions are ideal from start to finish. “You will likely want to mix and match positions,” says Kerner. “You can start in some of the more adventurous and highly athletic positions, but then transition into a less demanding position, where you can fully relax and feel present in the sex you’re having.”
Some of these positions won’t feel incredible the first time, adds Kerner. They might take a few tries to get the hang of. And some, Kerner warns, can potentially be dangerous—not in a sexy way, but in an “Ouch, my back hurts!” way. Don’t overdo it. This isn’t a “push through the pain” situation. If a position doesn’t feel right, then switch to another one. There are plenty of positions here to choose from.
Sex Position: Stand and Deliver
Also known as: The Bicycle
Benefits: You can enjoy the view of your penis thrusting.
Technique: Stand at the edge of a bed or desk while your partner lies back and raises their legs to their chest. Their knees are bent as if they’re doing a “bicycling” exercise. Grab their ankles and enter them. Thrust slowly, as the deep penetration may be painful for them.
Also try: Have your partner place their heels on your shoulders, which will open their hips so their labia press against you.
Hot tip: Encourage your partner to play with their clitoris manually. Also, show them that they can control your penetration by flexing their thighs.
Sex Position: Face Off
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Benefits: “This looks like it’s a nice position to fantasize a little and get a new view of your partner’s behind,” says Kerner. “It’s a chance to get absorbed in the sensations.”
Technique: From reverse cowgirl, have them bend all the way forward, extending their legs all the way back. They should be supporting their body by resting on their elbows, as if they were holding a plank.
Hot tip: Your partner can easily stimulate their own clitoris while you penetrate them. If the two of you are into spanking, go for it.
Sex Position: Standing O
Benefits: Ideal position for all things cunnilingus: clit sucking, rubbing, digital penetration, G-spot stimulation.
Technique: While on your knees have your partner stand up-right. They should then drape one of their legs around your shoulder while you eat them out.
Hot tip: Ideally you want your partner’s hands above your head. This can be accomplished through the use of some BDSM restraints. If restraints aren’t their thing, see if you can find an anchored bar or beam for them to grasp.
Sex Position: The Little Dipper
Benefits: “A great position that allows for clitoral stimulation with both your mouth and fingers,” says Kerner.
Technique: FYI,the partner on top will have sore triceps once you both finish. For the Little Dipper, the person on top uses either a bed, couch, or chair to hoist themselves over their partner. The person on bottom then inserts his penis into the top’s vagina or anus. The top then does tricep dips to move up and down on their partner’s penis. If done correctly, you should be in a T-shape formation.
Hot tip: Play with the top’s penis or clitoris for extra stimulation.
Sex Position: The 69 Bridge
Also known as: Golden Gate
Technique: “This just looks impossible to me,” says Kerner. “But if you’re able to do it, go for it. I think it’s just a victory in being able to pull this position off.”
Hot tip: You may need to help out your by thrusting your pelvis up, so their mouth can actually reach your genitals.
Sex Position: The Cat
Also known as: Coital Alignment Technique
Benefits: Strong clitoral stimulation. In a study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, women who were unable to have an orgasm in the missionary position reported a 56 percent increase in orgasm frequency using the coital alignment technique. Other studies suggest even greater success, with up to 73 percent of women achieving orgasm with CAT.
Technique: The CAT is very similar to the missionary position except your body is positioned farther up and to one side. Instead of being chest to chest, your chest is near your partner’s shoulders. Have them bend their legs about 45 degrees to tilt their hips up. This causes the base of your shaft to maintain constant contact with the clitoris.
Also try: Ask your partner to straighten their legs. Push your pelvis down a few inches while they push up.
Hot tip: Instead of thrusting up and down, rock forward and back to (hopefully) provide enough stimulation for your partner to orgasm. Make this position even better by grinding your pelvis in a circular motion.
Sex Position: Waterfall
Also known as: Head Rush
Benefits: The blood will rush to your other head too.
Technique: Move to the edge of the bed and lie back with your head and shoulders on the floor as your partner straddles you. The blood will rush to your head creating mind-blowing sensations upon orgasm.
Sex Position: One Up
Also known as: Over Your Shoulder, The Hamstring Stretch
Benefits: This is the best sex position for people who are particularly sensitive along one side of the clitoris.
Technique: Kneel on the floor with your mate lying on the edge of the bed. Raise one of their legs and ask them to support it by wrapping their hands around their hamstring just below the knee. With one hip raised, your partner will be able to add some movement to aid in your stroking or to help move you to the perfect spot.
Also try: Encourage your partner to wriggle a little to help you get the rhythm right.
Hot tip: During oral sex, allow the knuckle of your finger to trail behind your tongue. The contrast between soft flesh of the tongue and hard bone of the finger will create a pleasing sensation. (For more oral pleasure positions, check out Your Ultimate Guide to Oral Sex.)
Hot tip for her: Your partner can let you know the tongue pressure and technique they prefer by demonstrating with their mouth on your earlobe.
Sex Position: The Cowgirl
Also known as: Woman On Top
Benefits: “There’s going to be G-spot stimulation, clitoral stimulation, and cervical stimulation,” says Kerner. “It’s a nice position for the person on top to really control their orgasm. It also gives you a great view of everything that’s happening.”
Technique: Cowgirl is one of the best sex positions because it allows for a variety of interesting sights and sensations, and offers your partner the psychological advantage of taking charge of pace and depth of penetration. Alternate between shallow and deep thrusts. “Shallow will stimulate the front third of the vagina, which is the most sensitive,” says sex therapist Rebecca Rosenblat, author of Seducing Your Man.
Also try: Lie chest to chest, with your partner stretching their legs out on top of your legs. Your partner should brace their feet on the tops of yours and push off to create a rocking motion that will rub the vulva and clitoral area against your pubic bone for greater pleasure.
Hot tip: It will be easier for your partner to climax if you stimulate them manually and orally until they’re extremely aroused. From the cowgirl position, have them squat over your face so you can pull off some oral stimulation.
Sex Position: The Hot Seat
Also known as: The Love Seat, The Man Chair
Benefits: Good G-spot stimulation.
Technique: Sit on the edge of the bed or on a chair with your feet on the floor. Your mate turns away and backs up onto you, sitting between your legs. They can ride back and forth by pushing off the chair arms or pressing up with their feet. They can control the angle of entry by arching their back and pressing their buttocks into your groin. While doggy style is about your dominance, The Hot Seat puts your partner in the driver’s seat. And that makes it one of the best sex positions for both of you.
Also try: Your partner can reach under and stimulate the base of your penis, scrotum, and perineum. Meanwhile, you can reach around and stimulate their nipples.
Sex Position: Spin Cycle
Also known as: Maytag Repair Man
Benefits: Extra vibes.
Technique: This is a variation on the Hot Seat with your partner sitting in your lap, but this time planting yourselves on top of a washing machine set at the highest agitator cycle.
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